by Elisabeth | Oct 28, 2020 | Defenders, Dissociation, Recovery
I have had a hell of a week. I packed up our belongings while throwing half of them away, loaded the other half in a POD, put 6 months of essentials in a rental SUV (quite a big one), and drove 12 hours to a furnished house I had never seen before (other than the...
by Elisabeth | Nov 27, 2019 | Defenders, Dissociation, Trauma In Society
There is so much loss in this world. Human existence is wrought with change and loss around every corner. But when we have experienced complex trauma in childhood, the loss takes a new level. Instead of losing parents because they pass away, we lose parents while...
by Elisabeth | Jul 25, 2018 | Defenders, Dissociation, Freedom Fighters, Relationships
One of the most difficult aspects of life after trauma is allowing ourselves to trust. And this makes sense. We have been collecting evidence from a very young age. And we have determined that trust is not something we can afford. When we were growing up, nobody...
by Elisabeth | Apr 11, 2018 | Defenders, Recovery
Contrary to what we may believe about our inner parts, they are committed to an evidence-based life. They work hard to draw their conclusions about the world based on as many real-life experiences as possible. This started very early in childhood and continues to...
by Elisabeth | Jan 25, 2017 | Recovery
4 Reasons We Struggle in Relationship & 4 Things We Can Do About It Let’s face it. Relational trauma leads to less-than-stellar relational patterns. And while some healing must happen in relationship, re-traumatization is almost guaranteed. So as I mentioned in...