The Valiant Freedom Fighter

The Valiant Freedom Fighter

When it comes to parts work, there are some critical steps to healing ourselves.  First, we must build awareness of our parts and their unconscious beliefs.  Second, we must accept those parts for who they are today.  Third, we must allow those parts to express...
The Dissonance of Relationship

The Dissonance of Relationship

There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships.  Why?  Complex trauma is relational.  We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives.  And while the dissociation we use to...
The Girl on the Side

The Girl on the Side

It will probably come as no surprise that I have struggled in relationship for most of my life.  Until I had children, I never felt like a priority to anyone.  And I can hear that inner part who tells me that my children have no choice in the matter.  So I guess the...
Love is a Vicious Motivator

Love is a Vicious Motivator

For anyone who has spent time with me over the past few weeks, you probably found it hard to miss my latest obsession.  Recently I discovered BBC’s Sherlock.  I know what you are going to say next.  “Elisabeth, you are 7 years late to that party.”  I know that.  I...
6 Steps to Overcoming Invalidation

6 Steps to Overcoming Invalidation

I haven’t met a survivor who hasn’t been invalidated as they have journeyed through their recovery process.  When we hear invalidating statements, it hits us hard.  But there is a way to make it less painful.  Believe it or not, invalidation is a process.  It isn’t a...