My Kids Are Watching

My Kids Are Watching

When my children were born, I knew that I would dedicate my life to helping them be safe, healthy and happy.  I wanted my children to have a very different childhood than mine.  I was willing to sacrifice anything for them.  At the time, I didn’t realize that meant my...
Powerless Parenting

Powerless Parenting

Powerlessness is one of the most damaging emotions coming from a childhood of complex trauma.  It is the foundation of depression.  It keeps us paralyzed.  And if we don’t recognize it for what it is, it can lead to suicidal ideation and even suicide attempts.  The...
A Messy World

A Messy World

Protecting my children has been one of my most important goals over the past 11 years.  I have made it clear to my family and all other abusers that my children are not available to them.  I have eliminated all contact with abusers in our lives.  This required me to...
You Should Be Grateful

You Should Be Grateful

Through my work with other trauma survivors, I have been surprised to learn how many similarities our stories share.  The external circumstances are often different.  But the beliefs we gain, the emotions we carry and the abusive strategies used against us are...