My Kids Are Watching

My Kids Are Watching

When my children were born, I knew that I would dedicate my life to helping them be safe, healthy and happy.  I wanted my children to have a very different childhood than mine.  I was willing to sacrifice anything for them.  At the time, I didn’t realize that meant my...
I Am Not Shocked

I Am Not Shocked

I usually don’t write about current events.  I do that on purpose.  I want to keep the focus on recovery.  Too much focus on current events can be triggering.  Triggers can be helpful in recovery by giving us access to our emotions, but they can also shut us down if...
The Valiant Freedom Fighter

The Valiant Freedom Fighter

When it comes to parts work, there are some critical steps to healing ourselves.  First, we must build awareness of our parts and their unconscious beliefs.  Second, we must accept those parts for who they are today.  Third, we must allow those parts to express...
Nothing is Free

Nothing is Free

I haven’t always liked myself very much.  That is a side effect of growing up with horrible people who blamed their behavior on me.  But I have always been openly proud of my independence.  I have always seen my ability to function without help as a powerful...
What is it about us?

What is it about us?

I have been asked countless questions from trauma survivors about recovery.  For those of us on this journey, we are seekers and we want answers.  We do our research and we won’t stop until we understand.  I want to help people in their quest to understand.  Actually,...
See Me!

See Me!

I have been introduced to my second superior part over the past week.  Unlike my superior defender, this part is a rebel who wants to do her own thing.  At first, I found it a bit amusing to listen to her talk about how much better she is than everyone else.  But in...