I Am Not Shocked

I Am Not Shocked

I usually don’t write about current events.  I do that on purpose.  I want to keep the focus on recovery.  Too much focus on current events can be triggering.  Triggers can be helpful in recovery by giving us access to our emotions, but they can also shut us down if...
The Valiant Freedom Fighter

The Valiant Freedom Fighter

When it comes to parts work, there are some critical steps to healing ourselves.  First, we must build awareness of our parts and their unconscious beliefs.  Second, we must accept those parts for who they are today.  Third, we must allow those parts to express...
A Messy World

A Messy World

Protecting my children has been one of my most important goals over the past 11 years.  I have made it clear to my family and all other abusers that my children are not available to them.  I have eliminated all contact with abusers in our lives.  This required me to...
Nothing is Free

Nothing is Free

I haven’t always liked myself very much.  That is a side effect of growing up with horrible people who blamed their behavior on me.  But I have always been openly proud of my independence.  I have always seen my ability to function without help as a powerful...
What is it about us?

What is it about us?

I have been asked countless questions from trauma survivors about recovery.  For those of us on this journey, we are seekers and we want answers.  We do our research and we won’t stop until we understand.  I want to help people in their quest to understand.  Actually,...